me and my boyfriend have lived togeather for 17 years and just broke up he left me for a younger women and we have alot of things in both our names cars and the house we just signed for on the house it list us as husban and wife do i need to get a divorce or do we just go our seprete ways

If you represented yourselves as being married - especially if you filed an income tax as "married" and incurred debt as husband and wife - you'll need to file for divorce in order to disentangle your affairs.